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Handling Friends
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Never having spent this much time with your friends or
fellow students, it is important to know how to handle the
'less-than-cordial' ones. You will inevitably run
into a few students during your College Experience who
feel much like a leach that sucks, and sucks until you are
drained!
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Choosing Friends
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At University, you will have the option to make thousands of friendships
within the first week. Try not to keep yourself from concentrating
on one specific niche as you will be stuck in that group the rest of the
year. For this reason, it is important to choose your friends
carefully. If you are going to University with some high school
friends, don't feel bad going out with other friends. Give you and
and your friends the opportunity to meet other people.
We have put together a quick checklist when choosing friends that will
keep you from the
leech and psycho
. otherwise, branch out and be willing to stay up a little later
than normal during the first week in order to meet as many people as
possible. This will then give you a good starting point when finding
some great life-time friends. Here is a quick list for finding
friends:
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Go to the dances, functions, orientations, etc. during the first week.
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Don't limit yourself to the same small group during the first month.
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If you are at University to get a degree, don't even think about
hanging out with the partiers, drunks, druggies, etc. They are
the life of the party, but its because they have been there for
decades!
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Find some people who intellectually stimulate you and keep you
thinking about stuff that really matters.
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Don't compromise... there are thousands of kids at Uni.
Compromise is not an option. So many students, upon arriving at
University, couldn't be bothered going to functions, games, BBQ's,
etc. Therefore, they settle for the next door neighbor.
Don't! You will wish you didn't. If it means a few late
nights, you will be thankful you did later.
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Handling Friends
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Now that you have found some great friends, you have to remember the
reason you are here at Uni. Most students come to study and
socialize. I found the best investment was to buy an
organizer. Plan out your weekends so you are stuck with a pile of
homework on Sunday evening. If you don't plan out your time
efficiently, you will end up being annoyed by their
audacity in bringing your grades down.
Here are some tips to balance both friends and studies:
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Buy an organizer
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Ask your friends to let you know what is going on at least a day
before it happens.
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If you have a test the next day, decline! Otherwise, you will be
known as the guy who will always be keen to go party, and people will
flock to you.
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Make sure you set aside time for your friends, and plan some fun
activities other than movie and pizza.
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Return phone calls immediately. Don't be like some (me) who put
off calling back until they have forgotten what you look like.
Friends are there for your enjoyment, not to annoy you or make you flunk.
However, like any good friendship, it is important to nurture, pamper and
keep the relationship healthy - call them occasionally.
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Avoiding Psychos
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Leeches and Psychos are those individuals who, the instant you meet them,
will not leave you alone and cling to you will all of their might.
This can be dangerous and will ruin your time and University.
The reason these people leech onto you is because of their nervousness of
being away from home for the first time. They leech onto you like a
security blanket in order to feel stable. If you let them, you are
not only annoying yourself, but you are causing this person damage by not
letting branch out and grow. Do this person and yourself a favor by
letting them go their own way. If you leave them, they will grow.
When meeting 'them', look for these obvious signs.
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You are their first friend in years.
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They want you to be their best friend, instantly.
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Breakfast leads to lunch, to dinner,...
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Tells you their life story in response to, "hi."
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Wants to organize so that you have all the same classes.
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Ask for 5 bucks daily, and forgets to pay you back.
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When you get back to your room, you here a knock, every time!
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All vacations and holidays are planned together until 2027.
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Is waiting in your locked room when you get back every day.
Most of them are really great people if you allow them room to grow.
Otherwise, soak up the last few tranquil moments of peace and quiet
because you will not experience it until you graduate, if you are lucky.
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